We are allowed to disobey them only if they tell us to join partners with Allah
In that case, we must say ‘NO’ to them politely.
( We have commanded people to honour their parents. But if they urge you to associate with Me what you have no knowledge of,1 then do not obey them.) Al-Ankabout 29: 7
حين يأمر الوالدين أو أحدهما بالشرك بالله عز و جل فلا تجوز طاعتهما لقوله تعالى
(وَوَصَّيْنَا الْإِنسَانَ بِوَالِدَيْهِ حُسْنًا ۖ وَإِن جَاهَدَاكَ لِتُشْرِكَ بِي مَا لَيْسَ لَكَ بِهِ عِلْمٌ فَلَا تُطِعْهُمَا) العنكبوت 29: 8