What should men do when they divorce women? And what is to be learnt from the Quranic verses?
ماذا يجب على الرجال عند طلاق النساء؟ وما الذي يستفاد من الآيات؟
The Quran sets a gold standard for marital relations and separation, ensuring that the dignity and rights of women are fully protected during the most difficult times.
يضع القرآن معياراً ذهبياً للعلاقات الزوجية والانفصال، مما يضمن حماية كرامة وحقوق المرأة بالكامل خلال أصعب الأوقات.
Lessons from the Verses of Divorce | الدروس المستفادة من آيات الطلاق
1. Kindness in All Circumstances
A man should treat his wife kindly. One should treat his wife well even if he dislikes her.
1. الإحسان في جميع الظروف
يجب على الزوج أن يحسن معاملة امرأته. معاملة الزوجة يجب أن تكون معاملة طيبة حتى لو كره الزوج زوجته.
2. Graceful Separation
If a man decides to separate from his wife, he should do that without being hurtful to her. Allah Almighty says: (When you divorce women and they have almost reached the end of their waiting period, either retain them honourably or let them go honourably) Al Baqara 2: 231.
2. المفارقة بإحسان
إن أراد الزوج مفارقة امرأته فإنه يفارقها دون أن يؤذيها. قال تعالى: (وَإِذَا طَلَّقْتُمُ النِّسَاءَ فَبَلَغْنَ أَجَلَهُنَّ فَأَمْسِكُوهُنَّ بِمَعْرُوفٍ أَوْ سَرِّحُوهُنَّ بِمَعْرُوفٍ) البقرة 2: 231.
3. The Prohibition of Extortion
A man cannot mistreat his wife just so that she asks for a divorce by offering him money. If he does that then that is considered oppression.
3. تحريم الابتزاز والإضرار
لا يحل للزوج إيذاء امرأته لتطلب الطلاق ببذلها للمال، فإن فعل الزوج ذلك كان ظالما معتديا. لقوله تعالى: (وَلَا تُمْسِكُوهُنَّ ضِرَارًا لِّتَعْتَدُوا ۚ).
4. The Ultimate Rule of Marriage
(Then the husband must retain his wife with honour or separate from her with grace.) Al Baqara 2: 229.
4. القاعدة الذهبية للزواج
(فَإِمْسَاكٌ بِمَعْرُوفٍ أَوْ تَسْرِيحٌ بِإِحْسَانٍ) البقرة 2: 229.
Frequently Asked Questions | الأسئلة الشائعة
What does "retaining them honourably" mean during the waiting period?
It means that if a husband decides to reconcile and take his wife back during her Iddah (waiting period), he must do so with the sincere intention of treating her well and fixing the marriage, not to trap her or cause her further harm.
Can a husband intentionally treat his wife badly so she pays for a divorce?
No. Deliberately mistreating a wife to force her to return her dowry or offer money for a divorce (Khul) is considered severe oppression and a major sin in Islam.
How should a husband act if he no longer loves his wife?
Islam teaches that a husband must still treat her with full respect and kindness. If the marriage cannot be saved despite all efforts, he must initiate a graceful separation, ensuring she receives all her financial and emotional rights without any humiliation.